You may ask yourself:
For someone so organized at work, why do I feel so out of control in managing my life?
For someone so smart, why do I keep making some of the same mistakes?
For someone who gets along so well with colleagues, why do I struggle in my personal relationships?
For someone so composed at work, how do I get so upset by my partner?
For someone who leads others, why do I turn into a 12-year old around my parents?
For someone who has it together professionally, why does my personal life feel like a mess?
Things from your past keep gnawing at you ...
Previous relationships, family dynamics, decisions, losses.
They might come up fresh whenever you are stressed or at a big juncture (promotion, move, break-up).
You may experience feeling overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, disappointed, or even numb.
You might feel lonely – like you have all these amazing things externally but there is a hollowness to your life. You usually sweep these things aside, but they show up, again and again, in different ways.
You can make it in the world of work,
but find yourself confused when it comes to the emotional and relational arena.
You have achieved so much in your professional life
but your personal life has suffered collateral damage:
In how you relate to yourself (self-judgment, perfectionism, unhappiness, anxiety)
& how you relate to others (difficulties with boundaries, disappointments in relationships, loneliness).
Sometimes you feel embarrassed about it and other times you know you need to give it attention
but just don’t feel like you can prioritize these things.
Think about it though ... how will this aspect of your life get better without any attention?
You have spent so much time, energy, and money on developing yourself as a professional
but your emotional self has not grown to the same degree.
How could it have?!
You didn’t have good boundaries modeled by your parents.
You didn’t learn about emotional management in school.
There is no checklist for how to develop a good and fulfilling life –
no spreadsheet on the give and take a real relationship requires.
And the longer you go without attending to these parts of you,
the greater the discrepancy between your professional and personal self.
Hi! I'm dr. Pauline Yeghnazar
I combine the latest in the:
trauma-informed care (EMDR trained),
psychology of emotion,
& psychodynamic theory
to help you understand yourself
- your thoughts, your emotions –
so that you can act
in ways that serve you best.
When you do this,
your emotional self can
catch up to your amazing
professional self and you can feel
like a holistic, integrated person.
Fine-tuned Professional Self
Sophisticated Emotional Self
One Badass Power Couple!
Don’t wait. Don’t go it alone.
I have gone through 13 years of higher education in the social sciences, worked with thousands of clients, and taught hundreds of the next generation of therapists.
I can guide you through the process.
Like going to the gym ...
for your mind, therapy can help you develop new insights and skills to navigate your life with more ease.
Are you dealing with a big change? Finding that your old coping strategies aren't cutting it? Wanting to change a pattern you keep repeating? Feeling lost as to where to start? We could all use some individualized attention to help us optimize ourselves and our lives.
As social beings, we need each other. It is in relationship that we get wounded ... and it is in relationship that we also heal. Whether you are encountering a recent issue or wondering how to rework a longstanding dynamic, relating is a skill that can be learned. Being in a relationship that fulfills us and adds to our wellbeing is a gift to ourselves and our partners.